Below are some of the essays written by students of the University of Rizal-Angono after attending Better World’s Choosing Chastity talk. Click on the title or scroll down to read.
True Love Can Wait by Florencio Dimas, First Year, Fine Arts
The Pattern I Choose to Follow by Faith Marquez, Second Year, AB English
Chastity by Ana Vanessa Villas, First Year, Fine Arts
Time to Time (A Promise) by Vangie Perales, Second Year, AB English
Manlalakbay by Jhun Anthony Reyes, First Year, Fine Arts
Eye-opener by May Ann Pabia, Second Year, AB English
Sexual Purity by Rosemarie Franes, Third Year, AB English
True Love by Alyssa Castillo, Third Year, AB English
4D’s by Annie Joy Blanco, Third Year, AB English
Standards by Francis Jove Dela Cruz, First Year, Fine Arts
Para sa Matibay na Pamilya by Yugi Higa, Second Year, AB English
“LOVE” by Leizl Dalumpines, Second Year, AB English
Sa Panahon Ngayon by Gecil Balisong, First Year, Music Education
Isang Kuwento by Wilma Espinosa, First Year, Music Education
Dapat Malaman by Dhoryleen Raymundo, First Year, Music Education
True Love Nga Ba? by Joanna Wenceslao, First Year, Music Education
True Love Can Wait
(written by Florencio Dimas, first year, Fine Arts)
Every time I think of love, it makes me smile. I smile, because I’m happy for those people who are bonded by love and living with a peaceful family. I’ve tried to ask myself, “How can I have that kind of love?”
At my young age, I suddenly fell in love with somebody and I wanted her to be my future partner. Even though I already told her about my feelings, I was still afraid to court her because I knew my parents would not let me, for the reason that I’m still studying and she might be a distraction. But I felt I couldn’t wait anymore because I didn’t want my friends to tease me that I could do nothing, I could only stare at her.
But when our speaker spoke about love, I was so very interested. And that interest gave me courage to listen and try catch some idea about true love, and one word that caught my attention was “patience”. For I know it can help me to obey my parents and ignore what my friends are saying. And it will keep us also from impurity until the day will come that I will get married. As I wait, she might not be mine but I know God has someone that will be my perfect partner and will love me until the last of my days. And now I am waiting patiently and holding on to the best will of God for me.
The Pattern I Choose To Follow
(written by Faith Marquez, second year, AB English)
Nothing in this world is permanent except for change. Everyday, there is a new discovery, new insights, and new creations. We are surrounded by inventions and innovations, and together with the changes of the modern world, we change, as well. We innovate ourselves to adjust to the fast pace of the world. But not every change we do is for the good.
The youth follows what is “in” or what is “trending”. Because of this, we tend to forget the boundaries or limitations that we must conform to. In addition, we also forget what is right from wrong.
The youth are supposed to be the symbol for a better tomorrow. But how can we bring improvement to this world if we don’t know how to better ourselves. Nowadays, the youth is engaged in crimes such as theft or robbery. Aside from this, there are a lot of teenagers who engage themselves in pre-marital sex which could lead to early pregnancy. And now the increasing number of young mothers is alarming. If you ask them why they have brought this upon themselves, they would simply answer that it was because of love. But if we think it over, was it really because of love?
True love is selfless, it should always side with the welfare of the beloved. If you have been selfish and thought only of thyself, this could mean that you are not truly in love with your partner. This is something not all youth could understand. Maybe because we tend to say we’re in love only on the basis of positive feelings towards a person. The basis of love for teenagers is very shallow and unestablished. Perhaps, this is why not all young love stories end up well, because we get easily blinded by the sweet gifts partnered with even sweeter words. We tend to say that we are in love, ignoring the fact that what we are feeling could merely be attraction or infatuation. Because of this childish view of love, some teenagers give themselves up too easily and break the pattern that God has given them.
I myself had unestablished views on the matters of love. I let myself be drifted away by the deceitful sweetness a man could show. I disregarded the fact that I had a choice to believe him or not. Fortunately, I was strong enough to escape the illusion I’d entered. I’ve realized that I’m too precious to let myself be hurt by some man who calls himself “the one”.
It is never too late for anybody to learn what true love is. In the same way, it is also never too late to choose to live a proper and happy life. The pattern is True love – Marriage – Sex- Baby. This is the order that God has set for us. If we choose to live a life in accordance with this pattern, then we also choose to practice chastity in our lives. I’ve come to understand that I am worthy of being loved and being waited for. In addition, I am also worthy of being happy. And in the fulfillment of my happiness, the pattern that God has given me is the pattern I choose to follow.
Chastity
(written by Ana Vanessa Villas, first year, Fine Arts)
Chastity. I had never heard this word. Siguro kung narinig ko man po, hindi ko matandaan. Maybe because I didn’t know the meaning of this word before, but now? Malinaw na malinaw. I couldn’t imagine po na super meaningful ito. I’m very much affected by all the things behind this word. Halo-halong pakiramdam po na until now sa pagsulat po nito, kakaiba pa rin ang nararamdaman ko.
Bakit ako affected? I don’t know. Siguro, kasi naka-relate po ako. Sobrang thankful po ako doon sa ibinigay sa akin na pagkakataon para marinig ko ang lahat ng yun. Nasagot po yung mga questions ko sa sarili ko. Blessing din po para sa akin yung natutunan ko. It was a really a big help to everyone.
Bawat isa sa atin, walang ibang gusto kundi ang maging masaya, magkaraon ng magandang kinabukasan at masayang pamilya. Pero kung iisipin mo, sa papaanong paraan ba?
Ang chastity, ibig sabihin, malinis na buhay sunod sa plano ng Diyos lalo na sa pag-ibig, pag-aasawa, pagtatalik at sekswalidad. Ang sarap makamtan ito kung ating iisipin, pero hindi po pala ganun kadali. Lahat tayo nagmamahal. Totoo, di ba? Maraming klase ng pagmamahal pero dapat pag nagmamahal tayo, dapat ay totoo. Pag sinabing totoo, yung sya lang, walang hanggan at dapat handa tayong magsakripisyo para sa ating minamahal. Sa panahon natin ngayon, parang napakahirap na nga po itong gawin. Ang dami na po kasing tukso sa paligid. Kahit gaano mo kamahal ang isang tao, kung hindi naman makabubuti at lalabag sa kagustuhan ng Diyos ang pagsasama ninyo, hindi na dapat ipagpatuloy pa.
May mga taong simula’t sapul, takot magkamali pagdating sa bagay na ito. Yung ayaw na makagawa ng bagay na pagsisisihan lang sa bandang huli. Sila yung nagtitiwala sa Diyos, nag-aantay na ibigay ng Ama ang taong para talaga sa kanila. Yung walang magiging hadlang. Yung makakasama nila sa pagbuo ng maayos at masayang pamilya. Pero sa ginagawa nilang pag-aantay, maraming pagsubok ang mga pinagdaraanan. Nagkalat ang tukso sa paligid. Madalas, di nakakapag-antay kaya napupunta sa taong hindi naman para sa kanila. Di ba, napakahirap sa pakiramdam yun? Ipaparamdam sa iyo kung gaano ka nila kamahal at kahit paano mapapamahal rin sila sa iyo pero dahil sa alam mong hindi dapat, kailangan mong magdesisyon kung anong tama. Nakakalungkot at nakakapanghina! Kuntg tutuusin, bakit ba natin nararamdaman yung ganung pagmamahal sa taong hindi naman pala natin pwedeng mahalin? Hindi ba pwedeng maramdaman na lang natin yung ganon sa taong makakasama na natin sa buhay?
Mahirap mabuhay sa mundong puno ng mga kasalanan pero kailangan mong magtiwala sa kakayanan ng Diyos. Sabi nga, kung alam mo nang may bangin doon, malayo pa lang, umiwas ka na! Ako mismo, gusto ko ng maayos at masayang pamilya. Ramdam ko ang hirap makamtan lang yun. May mga tao na dumating sa aking buhay na nasaktan. Pero hindi lang naman sila ang nasasaktan. Sino ba ang gustong masaktan? Wala naman, di ba?
Kailangan nating magdesisyon kung tama ba talaga o kagustuhan mo lang talaga pero hindi ng Ama, ng Diyos. Matuto tayong makiramdam, magpigil. Hindi natin kailangan ang pansamantalang kaligayahan na hinahanap pati ng ating katawan. Huwag tayong masyadong padadala sa emosyon na madalas na nagpapahamak sa atin.
Mahirap talaga, sobra! Pero kung gusto mo talaga ng chastity, kailangan mong mag-antay, magtiwala na kahit gaano kahirap at kasakit ang iyong mga pinagdadaanan, handa kang magtiis at magtiwala sa kakayahan ng Diyos na sa kabila ng lahat ng ito, meron nakalaan na tamang tao at maayos na buhay para sa iyo.
Time to Time (A Promise)
(written by Vanessa Peralta, Second year, AB English)
Love is not merely feelings. It is a decision to constantly prefer to choose the welfare of the beloved. At my age of 24, I don’t believe that someday there will be a time that my Prince Charming will come along the way. I know that not all stories have happy endings like in fairy tales. As I have experienced from my past, they always broke my heart.
Valentine’s Day is not just for all the bf’/gf’s or married couples but it is also for everyone who is experiencing God’s love.
The chastity of love that we learned helped us to understand and to make clear in our minds that we are loved by our parents and friends. We don’t need to have a partner just to experience the vibes of valentines. And in God’s grace, we don’t need to feel incomplete about it. There are often times when we get hurt and still we give a second chance, but if it’s too much, can you still call it love?
The truth is you need to believe that TRUE LOVE WAITS. I made a promise to God, to myself, to my family and friends and my future soul mate and to my future children to practice chastity from this day until I will enter the biblical marriage relationship.
Manlalakbay
(written by Jhun Anthony Reyes, first year Fine Arts student)
Ayon sa paliwanag ng aming guro sa amin patungkol sa chastity, itinuturo nito ang isang magandang plano ng Diyos para sa atin pagdating sa pag-ibig.
True love ay hindi lamang bunga ng nasa ng ating laman. Naunawaan ko na ang Diyos ay mayroong magandang plano para sa akin at alam niya kung anong makakabuti para sa akin.
Ang pagpapakasal ay ginagawa ng dalawang tao dahil handa nilang mahalin at samahan nang tapat ang isa’t isa hanggang sa wakas ng kanilang buhay.
Sa ngayon, napagdesisyunan kong gawin kung anong itinuro ng aming guro, sapagkat alam kong tama ang aking gagawin, dahil buhat ito sa Diyos na lumikha sa akin.
Ang mundo’y puno ng tukso, at para akong isang manlalakbay na walang mapa kung walang Diyos na siyang gagabay sa aking paglalakbay sa mundong ito.
Maraming salamat kay Ma’am Weng dahil dinala niya rin ang isang gurong tauspusong itinuro ang Chastity. Maraming salamat rin sa Diyos na nagmamahal sa akin. At sa aking mga kamag-aral, sana, tulad ko’y maunawaan rin nila ito.
Eye-opener
(written by May Ann Pabia, second year, AB English)
Chastity. Bilang isang kabataan, isang “eye-opener” po yun sa amin upang malaman ang kahalagahan ng pagdedesisyon ukol sa hinaharap. Ang CHASTITY ay gabay upang gumanda ang aming kinabukasan. Dahil sa panahon ngyaon, laganap ang pre-marital sex, lalo na sa mga kabataan, kung baga, “bugso ng damdamin”. Dito natatalo ang maraming kabataan. Dahil sa mga maling relasyon, kaya’t nagkakaroon ng broken family. Ito ang simula ng kaguluhan, walang maayos na kinabukasan at paghihirap.
Ang kagandahan ng CHASTITY, itinuturo nito kung paano ang tamang pamamaraan sa buhay. Sang-ayon ako sa “I’m worth waiting for” or “true love waits”. Para sa akin, ang “true love waits” ito yung maghihintay ka pero worthy yung paghihintay mo. Kasabihan nga ng matatanda, “wag masyadong magmadali dahil baka mahilaw”. Ibig sabihin, ang pakikipag-relasyon ay hindi minamadali. Ito ay nasa tamang oras, tamang panahon at sa tamang pagkakataon.
Dahil dito, nakikita kung paano ka minamahal ng karelasyon mo at kung paano siya maghihintay hanggang sa espesyal na araw nyo. Dahil marami ngayon sa mga kabataan ang “easy to get” o madaling makuha ang loob kaya nabubuntis nang maaga na walang basbas ng Pastor o Pari sa simbahan.
Kagandahan ng CHASTITY sa kabataan ay ang pagkakaroon ng “mind set” o isang “goal” na makatapos ng pag-aaral, makakuha ng magandang trabaho, makatulong sa magulang, mamuhay nang tama at makipag-relasyon sa karapat-dapat na tao na kapares mo panghabangbuhay sa tamang oras.
Salamat po, Ms Raganit at Ms Melanie, sa pagtuturo ng kagandahan ng CHASTITY tungo sa magandang kinabukasan at maayos na hinaharap. “TRUE LOVE WAITS”.
Sexual Purity
(written by Rosemarie Franes, third year, AB English)
Chastity means sexual purity. It means living a life in accordance with the instructions or the manual made by our Loving God. A person should live pure in words, thoughts and actions. It is purity in love, marriage and sex. Chastity means not having sexual relations before marriage. This is the proper order God made for us: love comes first before marriage, and, inside marriage, follows sex.
Many of us are dreaming of a happily ever after like in fairy tales. Women dream their knight in shining armour to be a man who would stay by their side no matter what happens, a man who would love them unconditionally. True love is hard to find when we don’t practice chastity. Why? This is because we are easily tempted to do immoral things when we do not commit ourselves to be chaste. Temptations are very strong but we have our Heavenly Father by our side to guide us, if only we choose to follow him. True love should bring happiness to a person. It requires us to be free to choose who to love and it should lead to forever. When we love, we accept not only the good things but also the bad things from our loved ones. But we should always inspire them to be good people and followers of God. True love does not include sexual relations before marriage. True love should lead to marriage and inside marriage, love is shown in many ways including having sex or what we usually call “making love”. This thing is highly forbidden to persons who are outside the sacrament of marriage.
I believe that the best definition of love is that which comes from the Bible. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” It is not a feeling, because feelings come and go. “Love is a decision to constantly prefer or choose the welfare of the beloved.” When we love, we always keep in mind what would make our beloved happy. We always consider what is right. We do not do things that would endanger our loved one.
People should not engage in what we call “pre-marital sex”. This is having sexual intimacy before marriage. This thing is definitely a serious sin to God and it always displeases Him. We are born to this Earth for a single reason; that is, to serve and worship God. There are many ways we can worship Him and the best way is to always do right and moral things. Sometimes, people believe that having sexual relations with their partner is acceptable when they both love one another. This is totally wrong. A prophet says that sexual sins are more serious than any other sin except murder and denying the Holy Ghost. God rejoices when couples engage in sexual intimacy when they are inside marriage but it saddens Him when people do not follow the manual He has given. As the very first definition of love stated, “love is patient”. If people love one another, they will wait for the perfect time for everything and they will not rush things. Relationships that are built with trust, love and patience lead to lasting and happy relationships while those relationships which depend mainly on sex are more likely to end in such a short period of time.
Couples who are already married should not engage in sexual intimacy with another person other than his/her wife or husband. “Thou shall not commit adultery”, as the Bible teaches us. Couples should always love their partners and stay faithful to one another. Trials come to our lives when we least expect it but married couples should always bear in mind the promise they made to each other during their marriage ceremony: “I will love you and honor you all the days of my life, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” I believe each and every one of us should decide now to be chaste. It is not yet too late for changes, right? We should practice chastity in our lives as early as now to have a better and brighter future. We should start improving ourselves and fix the wrongdoings we have done in the past. Strive to be a better person. Trust and obey the plans of our Heavenly Father for us. Always remember, “the actions of today, determine your life tomorrow”.
4D’s
(written by Annie Joy Blanco, third year, AB English)
Chastity is a simple word to say but it is hard to live our life with it. It requires lots of sacrifice, dedication and fear of the Lord. As I listened and pondered the lesson, four D’s came to my mind to pursue purity. One is Desire- we have to desire to live our life in purity and in peace because if we don’t have purity in us, we can never have that peace. As I observe people living with the practice of fornication, I can see that they always have fear, self-pity, and disappointment. They think that they are not worthy of respect and love because of it. A few weeks ago, before the discussion of chastity, there was a student scandal video watched by a lot of fellow students. Sadly, the girl who was in the video committed suicide because of shame. She could not face the consequence of what she did. It was hard for her family to accept it because she was close to graduating as an engineer. That is why we need to desire to be pure, to live in purity and peace. Second, we have to Decide that whatever happens we will not enter into the place where we can be tempted. Boyfriends and girlfriends should not go anywhere without a person with them. They should decide that they will keep themselves pure until the right time comes. There are times that we have struggles but ask God for His grace that He will make us able to overcome our weakness. The urges of the flesh are hard to overcome if we are always in the place of temptation. Don’t even try to go to the secret place with your boyfriend or girlfriend to avoid temptation. Third, Discipline is necessary. Though it’s hard and it hurts, we have to discipline ourselves. There are times that pursuing chastity does not feel good but we have to discipline our selves. Last is Determination, whatever we do today will determine what we become tomorrow. Actions you take today will affect your future. So we have to bear in mind that we are living a life made by the Creator for a purpose – to bring glory to Him. He made us in His image that is why we have to reflect the purity that He has, because we are made by Him, through Him and for Him alone. God is the author of love. We are worthy to be loved so do not allow temptation to succeed in your life. Be an overcomer to be an example to others even to the future generation.
True Love
(written by Alyssa Castillo, third year AB English)
“Love is not a feeling or emotion, it’s a choice.” This quotation caught my attention and made me interested in our chastity discussion. One question came to my mind, what is true love? Does it really exist in this world of unfaithfulness? At first, I really didn’t know what true love is. I thought it’s just an emotion, it’s the time that you’re happy with someone, and it’s when you really care for someone. But when we had the discussion, I learned what true love really is. True love is Free, that both of you love each other freely, there’s no other reason why you love each other. True love is faithful, that the both of you should be loyal and trust each other. True love is forever or everlasting, the both of you thinking and dreaming it will last forever. True love is Fruitful. True love is not only thinking of today but also thinking of tomorrow and that will lead to marriage. It’s not just about the happiness of today but thinking of what good things should be done today to make the future a better one. I also learned the love-marriage-sex sequence. I’m grateful and thankful to our speaker simply because I learned a lot from her words. I know that I will carry those words forever and share them to others.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.”- 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)
Eye-opener
(written by May Ann Pabia, second year, AB English)
Chastity. Bilang isang kabataan, isang “eye-opener” po yun sa amin upang malaman ang kahalagahan ng pagdedesisyon ukol sa hinaharap. Ang CHASTITY ay gabay upang gumanda ang aming kinabukasan. Dahil sa panahon ngyaon, laganap ang pre-marital sex, lalo na sa mga kabataan, kung baga, “bugso ng damdamin”. Dito natatalo ang maraming kabataan. Dahil sa mga maling relasyon, kaya’t nagkakaroon ng broken family. Ito ang simula ng kaguluhan, walang maayos na kinabukasan at paghihirap.
Ang kagandahan ng CHASTITY, itinuturo nito kung paano ang tamang pamamaraan sa buhay. Sang-ayon ako sa “I’m worth waiting for” or “true love waits”. Para sa akin, ang “true love waits” ito yung maghihintay ka pero worthy yung paghihintay mo. Kasabihan nga ng matatanda, “wag masyadong magmadali dahil baka mahilaw”. Ibig sabihin, ang pakikipag-relasyon ay hindi minamadali. Ito ay nasa tamang oras, tamang panahon at sa tamang pagkakataon.
Dahil dito, nakikita kung paano ka minamahal ng karelasyon mo at kung paano siya maghihintay hanggang sa espesyal na araw nyo. Dahil marami ngayon sa mga kabataan ang “easy to get” o madaling makuha ang loob kaya nabubuntis nang maaga na walang basbas ng Pastor o Pari sa simbahan.
Kagandahan ng CHASTITY sa kabataan ay ang pagkakaroon ng “mind set” o isang “goal” na makatapos ng pag-aaral, makakuha ng magandang trabaho, makatulong sa magulang, mamuhay nang tama at makipag-relasyon sa karapat-dapat na tao na kapares mo panghabangbuhay sa tamang oras.
Salamat po, Ms Raganit at Ms Melanie, sa pagtuturo ng kagandahan ng CHASTITY tungo sa magandang kinabukasan at maayos na hinaharap. “TRUE LOVE WAITS”.
Standards
(written by Francis Jove delaCruz, first year, Fine Arts)
Love is a decision and not a feeling; it’s not a mood that we only feel especially during the 14th of February. This is the most insightful phrase that I learned from the chastity seminar conducted by Ms. Melanie Garduno in our English 2 class. Because during this season of love, it becomes a fad that everyone should have a date or should be in a relationship. So, during this day, you can call yourself “loved” if, by chance, you received flowers, chocolates or stuffed toys from someone, been dated in a fancy resto, had a movie date with someone, had someone special to hold, hug and kiss or even get laid. These are the stereotypes that some people want during Valentine’s Day. And these people are people who are desperately in need of love and are lost in the standards of this world.
I strongly agree with Ma’am Melanie about True Love and what the world we are living in now dictates of what love means and in what manner should we express it. Nowadays, love can be described as “Love is Blind”. “Love” can be an act of giving flowers, chocolates and material gifts. “Love” is how you give carnal pleasure to your partner (thus, equating “sex” with the term “making love”) and so on and so forth.
Based on my experience, if you are going to follow the worldly standards, you won’t get true happiness and contentment. The common delusions that the world offers us are: a perfect lover should be physically attractive, rich and famous and most of all, “good in bed”.
I’ve been in many relationships. I’ve been there and I’ve done that, and these standards are all shallow, materialistic and worldly. And if you are still eager to find your Dream Guy/Girl based on these standards, you’ll just end up stumbling in a wrong relationship and the worst case scenario would be disappointment and depression.
In our chastity seminar, Ma’am Melanie gave the following standards for true love which we can use so that we can identify and justify our relationships as “True love”: Love is Faithful, Love is Free, Love is Everlasting, Love is Fruitful and Love is Total. These standards go way beyond and transcend the standards of the world.
Again, based on my countless failures in relationships, I realized that these standards really make sense. I mean, Love is Faithful, because if you love someone, you will love them faithfully. Temptations are always there to break your fidelity, but if it’s true love, you won’t easily give in. Love is Free, because if you really love someone, you love him freely without constraint, you are not forced, it’s not an obligation. Love is Everlasting, because true love is meant to last, it doesn’t expire, it’s not terminal, it has no end, even in death. Love is Fruitful, true love should always be productive; and lastly, Love is Total, love is unconditional; you love someone wholeheartedly and you will give everything for your loved one.
For me, the standards about love that Ma’am Melanie gave us are not just based on her opinion or the opinion of couples who had been in successful relationships. They are FACTS that even I can testify to. If we would just ponder these standards, we would realize how the world deludes us about the way to find our better half. But for me, we should not even bother or worry about finding our better half; because I believe that God already has someone in mind for every one of us and it’s just a matter of waiting when he/she will walk in our life.
Para sa Matibay na Pamilya
(written by Yugi Higa, first year, Fine Arts)
Kailangang magkaroon tayo ng “chastity” sa buhay, lalo na sa isang relasyon, para maiwasan ang hindi pagkakaintindi. Dapat lang na sundin natin ang Diyos dahil Siya ang naglikha sa atin. Pero kahit alam natin na maling gawin ang isang bagay na wala pa sa tamang panahon, marami pa rin ang matitigas ang ulo at ginagawa. Dahil mas sinusunod ang sariling gusto kaysa sa gusto ng Diyos.
Siyempre, kapag ginawa ng isang magkarelasyon at nabuntis ang babae na hindi pa handa, ang magiging resulta ay pag-aaway, sisihan at mauuwi pa sa hiwalayan. Kaya naman, nakakaawa ang isang batang walang alam at walang kasalanan. Mas maigi at mabuti na sundin ang utos ng Diyos tungkol sa pagpasok sa pag-aasawa para magkaroon ng masaya at matibay na pamilya. Ganito kabuti at ganito tayo kamahal ng Diyos.
“Love”
(written by Leizl Dalumpines, second year, AB English)
“Love”. Yan ang isa sa pinakamalaking problema ng kabataan ngayon. Dahil sa love maraming napapahamak. Ano nga ba ang ibig sabihin ng love? Ang love daw, sabi ng ilan ay napakasarap, napaka-sweet dahil may taong nagmamahal sayo. May nag-aalaga, may nag-aalala, may handang gawin ang lahat para sayo. Dahil ang pagmamahal hindi makasarili, hindi mapanghusga, hindi mainggitin, hindi mayabang. Ito ay dapat mapagpatawad, mapagbigay, matiyaga, tumutulong sa kapwa, maunawain, tumatanggap ng pagkakamali. Yan ang ibig sabihin ng “pagmamahal”.
Marami sa kabataan ngayon basta mahal mo, kahit bawal, ginagawa pa rin. Nagmamahal, eh. Hindi sa lahat, pagmamahal ang umiiral. Ito ay may kakabit na kabiguan, sakit, pagnanasa, pananamantala, paghihiganti. Dahil oras na nagmahal ka at sinaktan ka, sakit ang mararamdaman mo. Minsan, maiisip pa natin ang maghiganti, ipakitang matapang tayo. Dahil ang mga babae, minamahal yan, hindi pinaglalaruan. Dahil ang pagmamahal pinag-iisipan yan, hindi yung kapag pwede na, sunggaban mo na. Kaya marami ang naloloko ngayon, eh, dahil hindi nila pinag-iisipan kung sino ang taong dapat nilang mahalin at pagkatiwalaan. Kung talagang mahal ka ng isang tao, kapakanan mo ang uunahin niya. Dadalhin ka nya sa kabutihan at ilalapit sa DIyos.
Para sa akin, ang love hindi makasarili, hindi puro sarili ang iniisip, at lalong hindi puro sarap. Dahil kung talagang mahal ka ng isang tao, handa syang maghintay hanggang sa magpakasal kayo. Hindi yung mauuna pa ang bata bago ang kasal.
Girls! Mag-isip nga kayo. Wag kayong basta-basta bumibigay, at nagpapadala sa nararamdaman nyo. Hindi nyo alam niloloko lang pala kayo para makuha ang loob nyo. Sabi nila, “true love waits” kaya dapat hindi nagmamadali. Wag kang nagpapadala sa matatamis ang dila. Dahil kung talagang mahal kayo ng isang tao, handa syang maghintay at kaya kang panindigan hanggang sa makakaya nya. Bago mo isuko ang lahat, kailangan mo munang isipin kung karapat-dapat sya para sayo at kung talagang kayo nga para sa isa’t isa. Kapag nagmahal ka, wag mong ibibigay lahat, dapat magtira ka para sa sarili mo. Para kapag iniwan ka, walang mawawala sayo. Malay mo, yang nararamdaman mo ay hindi pa love yan, kundi atraksyon lang sa isang taong gusto mo dahil sa physical nyang anyo. Dahil lang sa mabait sya o gwapo/maganda kaya ka na-inlove.
Ang pagmamahal maraming pinagdadaanan yan bago masabing true love. Dahil ang true love, sa kabila ng maraming problema, hindi bumibitaw, nananatiling nakakabit, hanggang sa mapatunayan ang inyong pagmamahal. Ang true love makikita mo lang ito kapag ang taong mahal mo ay pinakasalan ka at iginalang ka at may magandang pangarap para sa inyo. Dahil ang tunay na nagmamahal sayo ay gagawin ang lahat maging karapat-dapat lang sa pagmamahal mo. Dahil ang true love may takot sa Diyos, may tiwala, may katapatan, may pagtanggap, laging nasa tabi mo at hindi ka iniiwan, yung ipinaglalaban ang inyong pagmamahalan mapatunayan lang ang inyong pagmamahalan para sa isa’t isa.
Sa panahon ngayon
(written by Gecil Balisong, first year, Music Education)
CHASTITY . Tinutukoy dito ang dalawang taong nagmamahalan. Masasabing maayos ang pagsasama kung, una sa lahat, ay may LOVE. Dito lang pumapasok ang MARRIAGE kapag talagang mahal na mahal nila ang isa’t isa at kailanman hindi na sila maghihiwalay dahil kapag kasal sila mangangako silang magsasama sa hirap at sa ginhawa at may blessing sila.
Pero sa panahon ngayon, nauuna na ang SEX dahil maraming tukso ang nakapaligid. Ang mas naaapektuhan dito ay ang kababaihan dahil karamihan ngayon sa mga lalake kapag nakuha na nila ang gusto nila sayo, iiwanan ka na nila dahil gusto ka lang nila dahil sa SEX – walang MARRIAGE o totoong LOVE na ipinapakita. Ang kailangan, LOVE muna, tapos MARRIAGE, tsaka lang ang SEX para maayos ang pagsasama at maging matatag. May mga live-in na hindi rin maayos ang pagsasama dahil hindi nila pinagplanuhan ang kanilang pagsasama at hindi sila kasal, hindi sila blessed. Ang matatawag na TRUE LOVE ay merong LOVE bago MARRIAGE bago SEX.
Kaya dapat ang mga babae ngayon may paninindigan para sa sarili nila para hindi sila maloko o maging miserable ang kanilang buhay. Kung papasok sila sa isang relasyon, dapat nilang siguraduhin na karapat-dapat ang taong yun para sa kanya. Hindi nasusukat sa sex kung gaano mo kamahal ang isang tao. Dapat ipinapakita mo na mahal mo siya at handang gawin ang lahat para sa kanya.
Tayong lahat ay malayang magmahal at malayang mamili kung sino ang karapat-dapat. Kung hindi pa dumarating yung para sa atin, huwag tayong magmadali dahil may nakalaan para sa atin.
Isang Kuwento
(written by Wilma Espinosa, first year, Music Education)
Ano ba ang chastity? Hmmm. Ngayon, alam ko na kung ano ang salitang yan.
May ibabahagi lang po akong isang maiksing istorya ng buhay-pag-ibig ng aking kaibigan. Alam kong may kinalaman ito sa chastity. May nobyo po ang aking kaibigan. Actually, ngayon ay 3 yrs and 8 months na po sila.
Nung una po, ang gulo ng naging takbo ng relasyoon nila dahil wala po silang alam sa tunay at wagas na pagmamahal. Lagi po silang nag-aaway. Kadalasang pinagtatalunan nila ay wala po silang tiwala sa isa’t isa, walang respeto sa bawat isa, tapos, ginagawa lang daw po nilang libangan ang pakikipagrelasyon.
Tapos, nag-3rd monthsary na po sila, niyaya po ng boy na may mangyari sa kanila ng kaibigan ko (lovemaking). Pero hindi po pumayag ang kaibigan ko sa inaalok sa kanya ng nobyo nya. Nagalit po yung nobyo nya sa naging reaksyon at pasya ng kaibigan ko, kaya nakipag-break yung nobyo nya sa kanaya. Pumayag naman po ang kaibigan ko na dapat lang na maghiwalay sila. “It’s the only way to make me feel better,” yan ang sabi ng kaibigan ko. “I love you, thank you for sharing your heart. I’m waiting for the girl of my dream,” sabi ng lalaki sa kanya.
After one week, narealize po nung boy na mali yung ginawa nya sa ex niya. Nagpadala lang daw po sya sa bugso ng batang damdamin nya na akala nya na pag may nangyari sa kanila, magiging matatag daw ang kanilang relasyon. Nagsisi na raw siya sa mga pangit na nasabi nya at nagsisi syang naisip nyang gawin nila ang alam niyang sya lang ang may nais. Eto namang kaibigan ko, sinagot nya ulit at pinatawad na ang lalaki kaya naging sila ulit.
At ngayon, 3 yrs and 8 months na po sila dahil alam na nila ang chastity. Kailangan lang daw po ang wagas na pagmamahal, tiwala sa isa’t isa, respeto, at, higit sa lahat , ang malinis na hangarin nila para sa isa’t isa. Mahalaga rin daw po ang suporta nila para sa isa’t isa upang makamit nila agad ang kanilang mga pa-ngarap. ‘Yan daw po ang ginawa nila upang gumanda at tumagal ang pagsasama nila bilang magkarelasyon.
Dapat Malaman
(written by Dhoryleen Raymundo, first year, Music Education)
Ang reaction ko sa chastity seminar ay dapat nga po itong malaman ng bawat isa sa atin. Ang natutunan ko po rito ay dapat hindi po tayo bigla-biglang pumapasok sa isang relasyon na hindi naman natin sigurado kung tayo ba talagang dalawa ay nagmamahalan. Ang pagmamahal po pala ay hindi nararamdaman sa isang saglit o sa unang tingin. Dito ko napatunayan na hindi talaga totoo ang love at first sight, dahil isa lamang pala itong emosyon ng isang paghanga at hindi isang pagmamahal.
Dapat po tayong maniwala at manalig sa Panginoon dahil pag kilala at mahal natin ang Diyos, hindi tayo gagawa ng masama. Sabi nga po, dapat love-marriage-sex. Marami akong natutunan tungkol sa tunay at malinis na pagmamahal.
May gusto po akong i-share sa inyo about po sa lovelife ko. May bf po ako. 3 years yung gap namin. 17 ako at siya naman ay 20. Isang taon kaming naging magkaibigan bago naging kami. 1 year and 4 months na po kami ngayon. Aaaminin ko po, masaya ang may bf dahil siya yung napagsasabihan mo ng problema mo.
Pero mahirap din po kasi darating yung time na iiyak ka dahil nahihirapan ka na pero kinaya ko yun hindi dahil mahal ko siya, kundi dahil kailangan ko siya. Tinutulungan niya ako sa maraming bagay, financial man o sa mga project ko. Alam kong mali na tinanggap ko siya dahil doon. Pero isang araw, na-realize ko na mahal ko na talaga siya, hindi na dahil sa tulong niya kundi dahil may nararamdaman na ako sa kayna. Sobrang bait niya, mapagpasensya at maalalahanin. Tumigil siya sa pag-aaral dahil gusto niyang magtrabaho para matulungan ang mga magulang niya at siyempre para matulungan niya akong makapagtapos ng pag-aaral ko. Ni minsan, hindi pumasok sa isip niya na yayain akong mag-sex, siguro dahil alam niya na may tamang panahon para doon at hindi pa yun ngayon, at siguro nirerespeto niya rin ako.
Sobrang thankful ako kay God dahil hinayaan niya na magkakilala kami. Sana nga po, siya yung nakalaan para sa akin.
God bless!
True Love nga ba?
(written by Joanna Wenceslao, first year, Music Education)
“Chastity”. Sabi, it’s all about LOVE, maybe for friends, lovers, and, of course, sa family. Pero sabi ng iba, “Ah, love, alam ko na yan.” Alam nga nila, pero true love nga ba??
Ano nga ba ang chastity?
Chastity is a pure love or true love na kung saan hindi nakikita sa HHWW or Holding Hands While Walking. Hindi rin sa dami ng pagki-kiss ng isang couple.
May CYCLE bago ma-consider as “chastity”: LOVE muna bago MARRIAGE bago SEX. Pero sa panahon ngayon, nagkakabaligtad-baligtad na. Minsan, nauuna ang SEX bago LOVE bago MARRIAGE. Minsan naman, LOVE, tapos SEX, tapos MARRIAGE. Pero ito ay isang napakalaking kamalian because it’s not the correct cycle that we need when we say the word “chastity” or “true love”. Inaakala nung iba na “ah, true love na ’to. Kami na nito til d’end” Pero iiwan ka rin pala sa huli kasi nakuha na n’ya yung gusto n’ya sa babae. Eto yung Sex. Ang pangit man pakinggan pero eto lang ang gusto ng ibang lalaki.
Sometimes, may iba kasing babae na pag niyaya, Go lang! Kasi mahal nya nga raw yung lalaki kaya sya pumayag. Sasabihin, “ay, di ako iiwan nito. May nangyari na, eh.” Maraming namamatay sa maling akala. Kaya ayun, at the end, namamatay nga sila. Dahil sa sobrang pag-aakala nila na di sila iiwan, nadi-disappoint sila.
Dapat pag pumasok ka sa isang relasyon, kailangan Love muna, tapos Marriage, tsaka lang ang Sex for a long lasting relationship and to have true love and practice chastity.
Mahirap talagang makahanap ng true love. Mahirap yung feeling mo na akala mo talaga sya na pero ‘di pala. Pero alam naman nating lahat na may nakalaan talaga para sa atin. Dahil alam ng Diyos kung sino ang para sa’yo.
God bless us all!!
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